Life's a Hoot at 50.: Writing...New Goal, New Year

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Writing...New Goal, New Year

It's a new year and writing helps keep me grounded and on track. I love my other blog, but I don't write too many personal things on it, since it's about books and I get strangers looking at it mostly. So I'm going to write more on this blog. More about Alzheimers, the nastiest word in the English language, more about adoption, more about parenting, more about reading and eating and cooking and organization and marriage and, you know, about all the things in life that make up a day.

I don't need anyone to read this. I just need to get clear about where I'm at and keep a record of my life. A record of scriptures I love and quotes and sayings and Recovery examples. If it helps anyone along the way, then great.

So here is to a new year of writing, which I say I don't like, but don't really dispise. Here is to a place I can empty part of my heart and soul and then scoop it up and heal it with words and self acceptance and gentleness and endorsements and love. I'm not a great author, I gush more than anything. Oh well, I'm a good average writer and I even could say that I'm an excellent speller, as I am VERY good at Scrabble and Words with Friends. (Watch out Chris, Nat and Sarah)!

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Bear of Very Little BrainJanuary 22, 2013 at 9:32 AM
Sis, you're VERY GOOD at so many things, WWF and Scrabble for sure and so I DO watch out. Currently you're killing me at WWF. And always... also, this IS a great place to gush, it's what we do on a blog I think! And heal. I LOVE your kids' and kidlets' pics here and favorite scripture. I want to come here often. Love you so, :)
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SynthJanuary 22, 2013 at 3:36 PM
I'm excited to see what I'll learn from you. You're always teaching me things. You're a fabulous writer. Love you.
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Disclaimer: The following Recovery "spots" are accurate to the best of my knowledge, but they may not be exactly as Dr. Abraham A. Low stated them. Before using these as exact quotes, please refer to his books or website. http://www.lowselfhelpsystems.org/

Endorse!!!

Don't indict.

Endorse for the effort, not the outcome.

Drop the danger, judgement, and diagnosing.

Temper is, among other things, blindness to the other side of the story.

Comfort is a want, not a need.

There is no right or wrong in the daily trivialities of life.

Calm begets calm, temper begets temper.

Helplessness is not hopelessness.

Some people have a passion for self-distrust.

Temper maintains and intensifies symptoms.

Do the things you fear and hate to do.

You will get better in proportion to the discomfort you are willing to bear.

Fear is a belief and beliefs can be changed.

Nervous symptoms are distressing, not dangerous.

It's a triviality, not an emergency.

Bear the discomfort.

Brave, face, endure.

You don't have to be a hero, saint or angel.

Strive to be average.

If it has happened to one other person, it is average.

Drop the need for excessive responsibility.

Drop the need to be exceptional.

We want to be exceptional, but fear that we aren't even average.

Every measure of self-control brings a measure of self -respect.

Trust in your own validity.

Drop the temper.

Temper is a luxury I can't affort.

I Can not means I care not.

Move your muscles.

Feelings aren't facts.

Interpret securely, don't exaggerate insecurely.

Approval of others is a want, not a need.

Fear of the permanent handicap.

Feelings rise and feelings fall.

Act your way into right thinking.

Do things in part acts.

Look at the total view, not the partial view.

Objectivity terminates panic.

Decide, plan and act.

Humor is our best friend, temper is our worst enemy.

Treat your mental health as a business and not as a game.

Go after your mental health with a strong determination, not a lose wish.

Thoughts can be changed.

If you can't change a situation, you can change your attitude towards the situation.

Get out of duality.

A firm decision steadies us.

Be self-led, not symptom-led.

Wear the mask. It's group minded.

Don't put a ceiling on your feelings.

Don't take your "own dear selves" so seriously.

A thought created it, a thought can drop it.

Focus on what you do have, do know and can do.

Excuse, rather than accuse.

People do things that irritate us, not to irritate us.

People can be rude, crude and indifferent.

Expectations and disappointments.

You are entitled to your initial flare.

Trigger spot.

Don't lower the bridge of temper.

Temper blocks logic.

Brave, face and endure.

Have the will to hope.

Seize fire and others will lower their weapons.

We have the right to dream, hope and anticipate.

We have choices.

When you are in temper, express yourself to an understanding.

When we express ourselves in temper we end up with self disgust. It's damaging.

Desire spontaneity and act on spontaneity.

Avoid self importance. (As if people have time to sit around and think about what you did.)

An insincere gesture of generosity is far more valuable than an outspoken expression of enmity.

Don't go for the symbolic victory. Remember, "Peace over Power!"

You can command your muscles to move.

We cannot control outer environment, only our inner environment.

Endorse like an ever flowing river. Endorse, endorse, endorse. (I know this is a repeat. Just wanted to remember it!)

Everyday is full of frustration and disappointment. It's average.

Lower your expectations and your performance with rise.

Anticipation is often worse than the realization of an event.

Our self worth does not depend on our performance.

Remove the danger.

Thoughts produce symptoms and thoughts let them go.

Feelings rise and feelings fall.

You are a "capable lot".

You only know that you don't know.

Drop the vanity of knowing better and best.

To be simple is to be great!

Stop, spot and reject bad thoughts.

People do things that annoy us, not to annoy us.

Excuse rather than accuse. Accident vs. intent?

Resist the impulse.

Be group minded.

Peace within is attractive.

Don't let an incident rob you of the peace you strive for everyday.

Mistakes are a healthy and valuable part of life.

Don't blame, complain or explain.

Do things in "part acts". (baby steps)

Comfort is a want, not a need.

Tempermental lingo is self sabotage.

Take a "ho-hum" attitude toward a distressing task, (or symptom.)

I choose to hope rather than to feel gloom, doom and despair.

Drop the judgement on others and you then can drop it on yourself.

Refuse to sacrifice inner peace for trivialites.

Temporary peace or (peace from outer environment), isn't really peace.

Discomfort is a thing to be patiently borne, bravely faced and humbly tolerated.

Don't let the trivialities of everyday life get you worked up.

You can feel guilty without being guilty.

Some things happen by chance and not by choice.

There is no right or wrong in the trivialites of everyday life.